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Robert Greene16 September 2024

12 Raw Truths About Gaining Power & Respect - Robert Greene - #839

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The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster1:44:30

Machiavelli, the Misunderstood Renaissance Man

Greene bristles at the 'Machiavellian' caricature of an evil, conniving rat. The real Machiavelli was warm, funny and witty — a poet, playwright and great seducer of women who wrote a scandalous play performed in the Vatican in the 1520s. Greene stresses Machiavelli's most overlooked idea: he was a fluid thinker obsessed with water and currents, teaching that you must adapt continually to shifting fortune rather than rigidly repeating one form of power.

  • The 'evil conniver' image is a caricature of a warm, witty man
  • Machiavelli was a poet, playwright and renowned seducer
  • His scandalous play Mandragola was performed in the Vatican
  • His most glossed-over idea: adapt fluidly to shifting fortune
  • Water and currents were his central metaphor for power

he was a incredibly warm Humane human being who was really very funny and witty

Robert Greene · 1:50:30

Fortune is constantly shifting you have to be able to shift with fortune

Robert Greene · 1:46:30
#machiavelli#history#adaptability#power

Hot Take· 3

Hot Take02:30

Why Modern Philosophy Lost Its Soul

Greene argues philosophy and psychology went down a wrong path when they abandoned faith in thinking itself for data, studies and quantification. For him philosophy must connect directly to daily life and living, the way Socrates or Zen do, not float in ethereal abstraction. The deeper loss is a lack of play and wonder in how we approach knowledge.

  • Somewhere we lost faith in our own minds and thinking
  • Real philosophy connects to how to live, think and breathe day to day
  • Zen is 'the ultimate realistic philosophy' — no separation from daily life
  • Academia rewards taking a novel contrarian stance over rounded truth
  • The core deficiency is a lack of play and wonder

for me philosophy it has to have like a direct connection to my life to living to my soul

Robert Greene · 04:00

there is a sort of this odd highly scrutinous skeptical... there's a lack of play

Chris Williamson · 09:30
#philosophy#wisdom#zen#thinking
Hot Take20:00

Don't Be the Cynic: Wonder as a Superpower

Greene warns against cynicism, which reduces everything to one level — everyone's out for power, everyone has an ulterior motive — and so misses reality's actual richness and weirdness. Cynics start from a place of knowing everything, and people eventually push them aside. The antidote is childlike wonder, which Einstein located at the root of genius, and which makes you both more intelligent and happier.

  • Cynicism flattens reality to a single reductive level
  • People laugh at a cynic's jokes but eventually push them aside
  • Wonder and questioning are the root of genius (per Einstein)
  • The ability to express amazement and mean it is a rare, valued talent
  • Wonder makes you not just smarter but happier

cynicism reduces everything to this one level it has nothing to do with reality

Robert Greene · 22:30

the ability to express wonder and amazement and seem like you mean it is a rare and dying talent

Chris Williamson · 20:00
#cynicism#wonder#happiness#mindset
Hot Take1:52:00

Redefining Masculinity for Lost Young Men

Asked for advice to lost young men, Greene says to be comfortable with your masculinity rather than treating natural drive, ambition and testosterone as inherently bad. Toxic masculinity is real, but so are masculine virtues — and the culture offers only Andrew Tate or wimpy, fearful men as poles. Greene's model, formed on Gary Cooper westerns, is a man in control of himself who treats women well from strength; aggression is good when channeled and disciplined, not suppressed.

  • Natural ambition, drive and testosterone are not inherently bad
  • Toxic masculinity is real, but masculine virtues exist too
  • Culture offers only Andrew Tate or fearful 'wimpy' men as models
  • The ideal: self-control, decency, treating women well from strength
  • Channel aggression (Greene pours his into books) rather than suppress it

respecting them is a sign of your strength it's a sign of being secure in your masculinity

Robert Greene · 1:54:30

your aggression your assertiveness your testosterone it's a good thing... it has to be channeled it has to be disciplined

Robert Greene · 1:55:00
#masculinity#young-men#self-control#identity

Explainer· 3

Explainer14:30

Thinking Literally Rewires Your Brain

Greene cites UCLA neuroscientist Jeffrey Schwartz, who helped OCD patients overcome their disorder through mental strategies and used brain scans to show the interventions physically changed the brain. The point that grips Greene: something non-material like thought can alter material things like neural wiring. Developing skills connects parts of your brain that were never connected before.

  • Schwartz treated OCD with thinking strategies, not just drugs
  • Brain scans showed the strategies physically changed the brain
  • Non-material thoughts can change material brain matter
  • Learning skills connects neurons that were never connected before
  • Serious, sustained practice changes the substrate of who you are

through thinking through developing skills you literally change matter you change your brain

Robert Greene · 15:30
#neuroscience#neuroplasticity#skills#ocd
Explainer24:30

Stupid Certainty Is More Dangerous Than Evil

Drawing on the ancient Greeks, Greene argues more harm is done by stupid, incompetent people than by evil ones — and stupidity is defined by the certainty that you have all the answers. That certainty narrows your focus to a borrowed monorail idea while the whole world moves around you. When certain, unthinking people hold power, they march countries into unexamined wars, as Athens did in the Peloponnesian War.

  • The Greeks held that stupidity harms more than evil
  • Stupidity is certainty that you have all the answers
  • 'Phronesis' is practical wisdom — navigating people and getting things done
  • Certainty narrows focus to a borrowed monorail idea
  • Certain leaders enter unexamined wars — Athens' Sicilian disaster

what makes people stupid... is their certainty that they have all the answers

Robert Greene · 26:00

incompetent stupid people who were so certain who haven't thought things through are just as dangerous as evil people

Robert Greene · 27:30
#wisdom#certainty#history#phronesis
Explainer2:01:00

The Sublime: Awe Fused With Dread

Previewing his 2026 book, Greene defines the sublime as an unusual combination of pain and pleasure, awe and terror, that creates a vibratory effect in the body and gives you chills. Neither pure beauty nor pure pain produces it — only the startling fusion of both. Looking at the infinite night sky feels awesome while making you feel tiny and meaningless; put those together and you have the sublime. Chris connects it to awe and dread as two neglected emotions.

  • The sublime fuses pain and pleasure, awe and terror
  • Neither pure beauty nor pure pain produces it — only the combination
  • It creates a bodily vibratory effect and gives you chills
  • The night sky is awesome yet makes you feel small and meaningless
  • Dread can arise from standing in the presence of mastery

the sublime is an unusual thing It's a combination of pain and pleasure of awe and Terror

Robert Greene · 2:03:00

it's infinite it's awesome but I'm so small I'm so tiny... put those two together and you have the sublime

Robert Greene · 2:03:30
#the-sublime#awe#emotion#philosophy

Story· 3

Story10:00

18 Years in the Wilderness: How Skills Become Gold

Greene spent roughly 18 years failing — journalism, an aborted novel across Europe, a bad fit in Hollywood — quietly acquiring writing skills without realizing it. When the chance to write The 48 Laws of Power finally came, he could seize it because the discipline was already there, brick by brick. His lesson: knowledge and skills are a currency you unknowingly build until the world suddenly opens up.

  • Journalism, novel-writing and Hollywood each secretly taught a core skill
  • Skills compound brick by brick, often without conscious awareness
  • When you develop deep skill you literally rewire your brain
  • A tipping point arrives where opportunity meets your prepared ground
  • Time not spent acquiring skills eventually catches up, and the fall is painful

all of that time time Slowly by slowly Brick by Brick I had developed real level skill

Robert Greene · 13:30

when you've got skills Zoom you know where to go

Robert Greene · 16:30
#skills#mastery#career#persistence
Story55:30

People-Pleasing Reframed as a Strength

Chris lamented his people-pleasing to his friend George, who stopped him: what Chris framed as a malignant flaw was, to George, Chris thinking of him first — one of the reasons George loved him as a friend. Greene agrees, noting a trait you cannot really change (genetic or from early childhood) should be made to work for you as a strength rather than fought. Chris would never have become a podcaster without it.

  • A friend's outside perspective flipped a 'flaw' into a virtue
  • Beware attaching an unnecessary value judgment to a trait
  • Deeply embedded traits (genetic or early-childhood) resist change
  • Make an unchangeable quality work for you instead of resisting it
  • The people-pleasing is exactly what enables the podcasting

to me that's you thinking about me first which is actually one of the things that makes me love you as a friend

Chris Williamson · 56:30

make it work for you find the way that it's a strength and see it as a strength and use it

Robert Greene · 58:00
#people-pleasing#self-acceptance#reframing#personality
Story1:18:00

The Curse of Early Success: 50 Cent and Lewis Capaldi

Greene argues it is a curse to have everything go right on your first attempt, because untethered early success in your twenties breeds no discipline or perspective. 50 Cent, dropped and shot before his debut, learned he could not depend on a conservative label and pivoted to street mixtapes — avoiding the one-hit-wonder fate. Chris offers Lewis Capaldi's Netflix documentary as the flip side: crushing pressure after a debut that took him 'straight to the top of Everest.'

  • Early success breeds no discipline, perspective or awareness of danger
  • 50 Cent's pre-debut disaster taught him not to depend on a label
  • He pivoted to self-released street mixtapes and escaped one-hit status
  • Greene's own success at 39 came after years of failure gave him perspective
  • Capaldi's documentary shows the pressure of topping a runaway first album

sometimes success when in your 20s is the worst thing that can happen to you because you have no discipline

Robert Greene · 1:21:30

you want to know that failure is nipping at your bugs that your next... podcast Chris could be the worst one of your life

Robert Greene · 1:23:30
#success#failure#resilience#music-industry

Tool· 3

Tool42:00

The Unfalsifiable 'Your Breath Stinks' Door Script

Chris, from a thousand nights on nightclub doors, shares a mean but effective defense mechanism for a mouthy ejected patron: tell them their breath stinks and to give you some room. It works because it is unfalsifiable — no one can disprove it without someone coming to smell them — and you watch the color drain from the person as they are thrown onto the back foot. Any personal-odor claim has the same disarming effect.

  • Drunk people fall into a small number of predictable behaviour buckets
  • The 'your breath stinks' line is completely unfalsifiable
  • It instantly puts the aggressor on the defensive and drains their confidence
  • Any body-odor claim works the same way
  • A calm, deniable line defuses without escalation

mate sorry you need to get away from me your breath stinks and it's completely unfalsifiable

Chris Williamson · 43:00
#psychology#conflict#nightclubs#tactics
Tool1:29:00

Be Your Own Court Cynic: Game Out Every Failure

Greene describes the role he plays consulting for business people: the court cynic, brought in to argue how a plan could fail even when the whole room loves it. He games out everything that could go wrong — the public reaction, a competitor anticipating the same move — then adjusts the strategy to make a launch foolproof. The catch, he laughs, is that they rarely listen; Chris jokes he should try reverse psychology.

  • A wise leader employs a 'court cynic' to argue the counter-position
  • Deliberately enumerate everything that could go wrong with a plan
  • Anticipate public reaction and competitor moves before launch
  • Use the failure map to alter strategy, not to abandon it
  • People resist hearing it — the main lesson is they rarely listen

think of all the things that are going to go wrong with your plan let's game this out

Robert Greene · 1:30:00
#strategy#red-team#decision-making#risk
Tool1:42:30

Manufactured Social Proof: The Two-Wide Queue

Greene notes we are drawn to the packed restaurant over the empty one even if the food is worse, because seeing others do it pulls us in. Chris, the ex-promoter, weaponized this: a queue's perceived length signals how busy a club is, and length is set by width — so they squeezed the barriers to a two-wide line and made 100 people stretch 100 yards. Greene adds PT Barnum hiring a terrible band so people fled the noise into his museum.

  • People choose the crowded venue over the empty one regardless of quality
  • A queue's perceived length signals desirability
  • Length is controlled by width, not headcount — keep the line two-wide
  • Absence and social proof are two sides of the same psychology
  • PT Barnum drove crowds inside with deliberately awful nearby music

the length of your queue is determined by how wide the queue is not by how many people are in the queue

Chris Williamson · 1:43:30

because you see other people doing it you're drawn into it

Robert Greene · 1:43:00
#social-proof#marketing#psychology#nightclubs

Takeaway· 1

Takeaway1:30:30

Being Attacked Means You Matter

Greene reframes opposition as a privilege: if everyone loves you and nothing resists you, you stay mush and never push yourself higher. Muhammad Ali credited Joe Frazier with raising him to a much higher level as a boxer. Greene's own near-humiliation on the 50th Law — a canceled draft, reputation on the line, an eight-month rewrite — functioned like a bout with Frazier, forcing out his best and building his self-confidence.

  • No enemies or resistance means no pressure to grow
  • Ali credited Frazier with lifting him to a higher level
  • Pressure is a privilege, not just a burden
  • The 50th Law crisis forced Greene to raise his game under real risk
  • Doubters and adversaries can make you a stronger fighter

if I didn't have Joe Frasier around I would not have become the great boxer that I am

Robert Greene · 1:31:00

being attacked is a sign that you are important enough to be a Target

Chris Williamson · 1:30:30
#adversity#rivalry#growth#pressure