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Gurwinder Bhogal04 July 2024

14 Uncomfortable Truths About Human Psychology - Gurwinder Bhogal - #805

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Myth Buster· 1

Myth Buster

Common Knowledge Effect: Why Diverse Teams Don't Decide Better

Groups are meant to beat individuals by combining perspectives, but in practice they decide on the information common to all members, not each member's unique knowledge. Bhogal says the data on diverse-vs-homogeneous teams is close to null, 'significant but not substantial', because specialist or unusual input isn't recognised by the others and gets dropped in favour of consensus. Diversity can still help elsewhere (a varied friend group, translation work), just not in consensus-based team decisions.

  • Teams decide on shared information, not on each member's specialist knowledge
  • This inverts the theoretical model of pooled 'super-expertise'
  • Meta-analyses show diversity's effect on team performance is close to null
  • Unusual experience gets discarded because others don't recognise or agree with it
  • Diversity still helps in one-on-one learning and in specific tasks like translation
  • Social conformity dynamics further nerf the edges off distinctive contributions

a group doesn't base its decisions on the info specific to each member, but only on the info common to them all

Chris Williamson

they make decisions based on consensus, and consensus is obviously what all of them have in common

Gurwinder Bhogal
#teams#diversity#decision-making#conformity

Hot Take· 1

Hot Take

Political Coverage Is 'The Kardashians for People with Three-Figure IQs'

Williamson argues that following Trump vs Biden, or Jordan Peterson vs some 'lefty person,' is fundamentally gossip, reality TV for the Substack generation, dressed up as ideas. Complex, first-principles reality gets personified into simple stories of hot/not, fair/unfair, in/out, because that's the most fundamental human frame. He offers a personal conversational check: when he catches himself talking too much about people and their motivations, he flags that he's slipping into personified narrative.

  • Personifying events and regimes drags stories from fact into fiction
  • Simple good-vs-bad framing means readers never learn the first principles
  • A grappling-tournament rivalry sells because 'prestige vs money' is universally understandable
  • The underlying draw of political coverage is gossip: who's hot, who's fair, who's in
  • Self-check: catch yourself narrating people's motivations instead of discussing ideas

It's just the Kardashians for people with three figure IQs

Chris Williamson
#narrative#gossip#media#attention

Explainer· 9

Explainer

False Consensus Effect: 'Is It Me or Is It Them?'

We treat ourselves as the baseline and consider normal whatever we do, so when someone annoys us we default to blaming them rather than questioning our own perception. Bhogal's heuristic is to ask 'is it me or is it them?' to get a more grounded read on reality. It pairs with the fundamental attribution error, where we blame an ally's failure on circumstance and an enemy's on their character.

  • We use ourselves as the baseline by which we judge everyone else
  • Faced with annoyance, most people err toward 'they're annoying' over 'I'm easily annoyed'
  • Our experiences and personality are invisible filters, like a window you forget you're looking through
  • Fundamental attribution error: ally's failure blamed on circumstance, enemy's on character
  • Regularly asking 'is it me or them?' surfaces where the problem is really your perception

we don't just do whatever we consider normal, we also consider normal whatever we do

Chris Williamson

if you're looking through a window long enough, you forget that you're actually looking through a window

Gurwinder Bhogal
#psychology#bias#self-awareness#perception
Explainer

Enthymeme: Selling a Lie by Assuming It as a Premise

The best propagandists don't state a lie directly; they make statements that tacitly assume the lie as a premise, and a mistruth you deduce yourself is much harder to guard against. Bhogal shows how a politician can smuggle a claim (e.g. 'the banks are evil') in as a peripheral point while ostensibly talking about the economy, slipping past your defences. The Asch conformity experiments explain why: nobody wants to be the one who questions what everyone appears to accept.

  • An enthymeme is an argument in which one premise is left unstated (from Greek, 'within the mind')
  • A self-deduced mistruth is harder to resist than one that arrives fully formed
  • Politicians bury propaganda as a peripheral point so guards stay down
  • Modern conspiracism bakes tenuous presuppositions ('the deep state is X') into the premise
  • Asch's line experiments: people conform to obviously wrong consensus rather than look stupid

convince people of a lie not by stating the lie directly, but by making statements that tacitly assume the lie as a premise

Chris Williamson

if it was obvious, it wouldn't be the premise

Gurwinder Bhogal
#propaganda#rhetoric#conformity#persuasion
Explainer

Post-Journalism: The Press Now Confirms Instead of Informs

When the internet democratised news, the press lost its monopoly and, to save its business model, pivoted from journalism to tribalism, its new role being to confirm what readers already believe. Bhogal cites analysis (Ryan Chapman) suggesting pre-internet media really were less biased because news itself was valuable and scarce. Now even hard-news copy is slanted and constructed like a TV serial, e.g. the New York Times casting Trump as a recurring cartoon villain.

  • Pre-internet, a news monopoly meant outlets could afford to just report
  • Losing the monopoly forced a new model: confirming beliefs to hold an audience
  • News gets built with fictional devices, twists, irony, poetic justice
  • Reporting becomes a narrative serial rather than a set of facts
  • Bhogal still reads it, but to see what they're trying to convince people of

The new role of the press is not to inform its readers, but to confirm what they already believe

Chris Williamson

you're not reading the news, you're reading story

Gurwinder Bhogal
#media#journalism#tribalism#narrative
Explainer

Fiction Lag: We Absorb the Traits of Our Favourite Characters

When captivated by fiction, people unconsciously adopt the traits of characters they identify with, because we build identity by copying others, 'experience taking.' Bhogal cites studies where readers who bonded with a sympathetic activist became more likely to vote, and those who bonded with a minority character became more sympathetic to that group. He noticed it personally, modelling himself on Michael Corleone, especially when drunk.

  • Fiction gives us ideas on who to be; we're mimetic beings cobbling identities from others
  • Studies: identifying with a fictional voter/activist raised real-world voting
  • Identifying with a sympathetic minority character increased real-world sympathy
  • We know we're watching a movie yet forget once immersed, revealing a vulnerability to story
  • Danger: modelling behaviour on outcomes that were authored, not real

When people are captivated by a work of fiction, they unconsciously adopt the traits of their favorite characters

Chris Williamson

we take bits and pieces from other people and we assemble them ... into this kind of character that we choose to become

Gurwinder Bhogal
#fiction#identity#psychology#mimesis
Explainer

Compassion Fade: One Death Is a Tragedy, a Million a Statistic

Presented with a famine statistic versus a single starving girl, people donate far more to the girl, because our minds can't grasp big numbers and navigate the world through stories, not statistics. We're moved by drama, not data. Bhogal frames this as the reason fiction and post-journalism work: narrative personifies emotion so we understand it, an evolutionary spandrel from learning by watching individuals in our tribe.

  • A single identifiable victim out-pulls large-number suffering for donations
  • We navigate via narrative because we can't emotionally grasp big numbers
  • Compassion fade underpins both fiction lag and post-journalism
  • The pull of story is likely an evolutionary spandrel, a byproduct, not an adaptation
  • Great nonfiction (e.g. Morgan Housel) works by being a storybook, because stories are retained

one death is a tragedy, one million is a statistic

Chris Williamson

We are moved by drama, not by data

Chris Williamson
#compassion-fade#psychology#storytelling#cognition
Explainer

Package-Deal Ethics: Why Beliefs Come in Predictable Bundles

If someone's whole belief set is predictable from one belief, they're not reasoning individually, they've adopted a ready-made package offered by a tribe. Bhogal explains it's cheaper than analysing each issue and it buys tribal belonging, which is why gun-control views predict stances on abortion, healthcare and immigration despite no real logical link. Williamson adds the 'unreliable ally' dynamic: holding a non-standard mix of beliefs gets you ostracised and pressured to conform.

  • Finite time and energy push people to adopt whole 'oven-ready' belief packages
  • Packages also provide tribal belonging and kinship
  • Unrelated beliefs (guns, abortion, healthcare) become highly predictable together
  • The 'unreliable ally' who mixes positions is pressured to zip up the ideological onesie
  • Packages contain internal contradictions (e.g. anti-immigration yet pro-freedom)

If I can predict all of your beliefs from one of your beliefs, you're not a serious thinker

Chris Williamson

most people don't choose beliefs individually, but subscribe to packages of beliefs offered by a tribe

Chris Williamson
#tribalism#ideology#belief#politics
Explainer

Rothbard's Law: People Specialise in What They're Bad At

When a talent comes naturally, we assume it's nothing special and instead work to improve at what feels hard, so people often specialise in things they're bad at. Bhogal thought he was a 'numbers guy' for years and only realised he could write once enough others told him, because you can't judge a talent that's been your invisible baseline. The fix: get honest early feedback from friends, and follow what genuinely interests you as a proxy for talent.

  • A natural talent feels like nothing special, so we chase the difficult instead
  • You can't see a talent that has always been your baseline (a false-consensus blind spot)
  • Outside feedback acts as a mirror that reveals your blind spots
  • We use effort and challenge as a proxy for value, undervaluing what comes easily
  • A good proxy for talent, especially when young, is what genuinely interests or obsesses you

If a talent comes naturally to someone, they assume it's nothing special

Chris Williamson

how are you supposed to know if you're good at something if you have spent your whole life thinking it's normal?

Gurwinder Bhogal
#talent#self-knowledge#feedback#career
Explainer

Champion Bias: The Best Advice on Winning Comes From Losers

Winners rarely examine why they won, they're busy celebrating and overrate their talent, while losers dwell regretfully on their mistakes, so the best advice on winning often comes from those who lost. Bhogal argues avoiding pitfalls beats chasing secrets to success, since success is mostly just persistence plus not making critical errors. Williamson's 'never multiply by zero': one catastrophic mistake (driving without a seatbelt) wipes out everything else you did right.

  • Winners don't interrogate success; biases push them to over-credit talent
  • Losers replay failures until they genuinely understand what went wrong
  • It's easier to find why something failed than why it succeeded
  • Success ≈ avoiding mistakes + persistence; there's no exotic secret
  • 'Never multiply by zero': one critical error nullifies all your other efforts
  • Better interview question: 'What do most people get wrong about X?'

You'll often obtain the best advice on winning, not from winners, but from losers

Chris Williamson

instead of trying to be right, try to be less wrong

Gurwinder Bhogal
#success#failure#advice#risk
Explainer

Anchored to Your Own History: Escape It by Living in Other Times

Your personal experiences are a tiny fraction of what's happened in the world but maybe 80% of how you think it works (Morgan Housel), so boomers and Gen X drew opposite economic worldviews from the eras they lived through. Because our lifespan is 'a brief crack of light between two eternities of darkness,' our sample is never representative. Bhogal's escape, via a C.S. Lewis quote, is to live in other times and places through reading and foreign news to immunise against your own age's errors.

  • Personal experience is a negligible sample yet dominates our model of the world
  • Boomers saw a flat market, Gen X saw a boom, each assumed theirs was 'normal'
  • Political and economic views track the era you happened to live through
  • C.S. Lewis: the scholar who lives in many times is immune to his own age's nonsense
  • Bhogal watches Chinese, Russian and Indian news to get out of his civilisational baseline

your personal experiences make up maybe ... 80% of how you think the world works

Chris Williamson

The scholar has lived in many times and is therefore immune from the great cataract of nonsense that pours from the press of his own…

Gurwinder Bhogal
#bias#history#worldview#morgan-housel

Tool· 1

Tool

The Narcissist's Bedpost: Count the 'I's and 'Me's

Bhogal offers a conversational gauge: notice how often a person uses 'I,' 'me,' and 'we' when discussing a non-personal topic. Frequent self-reference signals either they have little to talk about beyond themselves or they're advertising, both marks of a self-centred, solipsistic person. He ties the rise of this 'me culture' to social media, especially Instagram, which rewards presenting yourself as a product.

  • The narcissist injects themselves into every story because they can't imagine one without them at the centre
  • A high rate of 'I / me / we' on impersonal topics is the tell
  • Two drivers: nothing else to talk about, or actively advertising oneself
  • It may be ordinary selfishness or solipsism rather than clinical narcissism
  • Social media privileges an 'I culture' where people present a best self instead of getting to know others

The narcissist can't resist injecting themselves into every story and example, no matter how unrelated or tenuous

Chris Williamson
#narcissism#conversation#social-media#heuristics

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway

Inverse Charisma: Make the Other Person Feel Interesting

Some people feel interesting; some people make you feel interesting. What people actually want is to feel interesting themselves, so you can become magnetic by doing nothing 'interesting', just pointing attention at them and asking good questions. Williamson cites the story of a woman leaving dinner with one candidate feeling he was the cleverest man alive, and with the other feeling she was the cleverest. True charisma may be the ability to make others feel charismatic.

  • People care far more about feeling interesting than about how interesting you are
  • You can be magnetic by asking good questions and valuing the other person's opinions
  • This is a gift for people who aren't naturally outgoing or gregarious
  • The best conversations feel generative for both people, with no 'charisma' deployed
  • Arguably the highest form of charisma is making other people feel charismatic

Some people feel interesting, some people make you feel interesting

Chris Williamson

true charisma is the ability to make other people feel charismatic

Gurwinder Bhogal
#charisma#conversation#social-skills#communication
Takeaway

'When Did They Last Surprise You?' A Test for Sincere Thinkers

To gauge whether a content creator actually holds their views, ask when they last surprised you with a take. Thinkers like Sam Harris hold an 'ugly-shaped' belief structure, pro-vaccine but anti-lockdown, anti-woke but anti-Trump, and pay a heavy price for it. When someone is attacked by both left and right ('ideological spit roasting') for a non-egregious opinion, it's usually a signal of genuine, integrity-driven belief, because the easier route is to pick a tribe.

  • A creator who never surprises you is likely toeing a tribal line
  • Non-typical belief constellations (Sam Harris) resist prediction
  • Paying a heavy social cost signals the beliefs are sincere
  • Being cancelled by both left and right ('ideological spit roasting') is a good sign of integrity
  • The easy route is to get the backing of one side; refusing it is costly

the last time that someone follows surprised you is a good heuristic

Chris Williamson
#integrity#heuristics#tribalism#critical-thinking