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Jeremy Renner05 May 2025

How To Overcome The Worst Pain Of Your Life - Jeremy Renner - #937

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Hot Take· 1

Hot Take

Refuse to be a victim: you build your own reality

Renner rejects the victim narrative outright, insisting he made the choice to save his nephew and has no regrets. He argues the only thing you truly control is your perception, and that your will is a life force strong enough to build your own reality. He refuses to be haunted or to hobble around, and says that stance is a deliberate act of will rather than a given.

  • He made a conscious choice and refuses any victim framing
  • Perception is the one thing fully within your control
  • Your will is a life force you actively use to build reality
  • He refuses to be haunted by the trauma as a matter of will
  • Victim mentality simply does not fit his experience: a square peg in a round hole

The reality is you build it. You can build your own reality.

Jeremy Renner

I wasn't even victimized. How can I be a victim? I made the choice. I don't regret my choice.

Jeremy Renner
#mindset#agency#resilience

Story· 7

Story

The snowcat accident: run over clearing a New Year's driveway

Renner recounts how, on New Year's Day at his snowed-in Lake Tahoe home, he used a 16,000-pound snowcat to clear the driveway. When the machine slid on ice toward his nephew Alex, he stepped out to talk to him, hit the toggle wrong, was thrown off, and the running machine rolled over him like a tank over a log. It broke roughly 38 bones, cracked his skull, and popped his eye out, but it did not hit his nephew.

  • A snowcat is a tank-like tracked machine with no ladder, so you must step on the moving tracks to get in
  • The machine slid on ice toward his nephew as Alex unhooked a chain
  • Renner was thrown off, then crushed trying to leap back into the cab
  • He calls the step-on-the-tracks entry a design flaw for a non-pedestrian commercial vehicle
  • His body did not slow the machine, but it missed his nephew

It crushes me and it rolls over like a tank would run over a log.

Jeremy Renner

I break like 38 bones, my skull cracks open... I can see my eyeball with my other eye.

Jeremy Renner
#accident#survival#story
Story

45 minutes on the ice: making yourself breathe to stay alive

With his rib cage collapsed onto an already-collapsed lung, Renner had to consciously fight for every breath for 45 minutes before he could be airlifted out. He describes breathing as a one-arm push-up that took every ounce of energy, drawing on Lamaze breathing he learned at age 12 when his mother was pregnant. He triaged ruthlessly: the eye and twisted legs could wait, the only immediate need was air.

  • Lamaze short-breath technique learned at 12 unexpectedly saved his life
  • His collapsed rib cage was suffocating his own lung until his nephew lifted his arm
  • He treated survival as a checklist: get air in first, worry about everything else later
  • No one else could breathe for him; it was entirely on him
  • The first 25 minutes were the toughest, before emergency services could reach him

If you can't breathe, what are you gonna do? Look for your next breath.

Jeremy Renner

It took every piece of physical energy I could do just to exhale a little bit so I can get a little bit more back…

Jeremy Renner
#survival#breathing#focus
Story

Dying on the ice and being pissed off to come back

Renner describes his heart rate dropping to 18 beats per minute as he slipped away smoothly and peacefully, a state he found beautiful and full of love. When something brought him back into his 'busted body', his reaction was annoyance at having to return. A neighbor who worked in medicine confirmed she saw him go, his face turning colors like a chameleon.

  • His heart rate lowered to about 18 bpm as he faded gently, not abruptly
  • He experienced the passing as peaceful, electric, and loving
  • He was annoyed, not relieved, to be revived
  • The only thing you take with you when you die, he says, is the love
  • A medically-trained neighbor witnessed the moment

It's the only thing you take with you when you die is the love.

Jeremy Renner
#near-death#perspective#love
Story

Quitting oxycontin cold turkey: worse than the accident

About four weeks into recovery Renner cracked a tooth and felt pain break through his oxycontin, which made him question why he was on it. After a tooth extraction he went cold turkey and endured three and a half days of uncontrollable crying, shivering, and cold sweats. His pain-management doctor warned that no one should quit that way and that a two-week taper is needed. Renner's takeaway: get off opioids as fast as safely possible and find other ways.

  • Pain breaking through the oxycontin made him question the drug's value
  • Cold-turkey withdrawal brought three and a half days of crocodile tears and cold sweats
  • He describes it as worse than the accident itself
  • His doctor said to taper over at least two weeks, not quit abruptly
  • His recommendation: get off opioids as soon as possible and find alternatives

I cried for like three and a half days straight and shivered and cold sweats... It was way worse than the accident.

Jeremy Renner
#opioids#withdrawal#recovery
Story

Two goodbye notes and the gift of no regrets

In hospital, on machines and expecting the plug to be pulled, Renner wrote two goodbye notes, one to his family and one to his daughter, and found he had no regrets and was ready to go. He treats that confirmation as a gift that validated how he had been living and a mandate to keep going the same way, with 'no bad days' for the rest of his life.

  • He wrote goodbye notes expecting to die on the machines
  • He discovered he had no regrets and was ready to go
  • That confirmation became a gift and a validation of how he had lived
  • He now commits to 'no bad days', only bad moments
  • Seeing 'behind the curtain' left a lasting knowingness and peace

I wrote two goodbye notes, one to my family, one to my daughter. And I had no regrets.

Jeremy Renner
#mortality#regret#perspective
Story

Fame flipped: being seen as the man, not the character

Renner reflects on how the accident changed his relationship with fame. Where fans once demanded selfies mid-dinner as if owed them, he now gets tender, thoughtful street exchanges about his recovery. The platform shifted from selling a movie to talking about health, overcoming obstacles, and real human experience, which he finds far more personal and energizing because there are willing ears.

  • Pre-accident fame felt like a constriction with everything scheduled
  • Fans once treated selfies as something he owed them
  • Now exchanges are tender and about his recovery, not the character
  • The platform shifted from promoting films to discussing real human experience
  • He values being seen as the man he is, not a cardboard cutout

It's more about the man that I am... something much more real and something really quite tender and beautiful.

Jeremy Renner
#fame#identity#connection
Story

Avengers, Hawkeye, and using fame as a conduit to kids

Renner reflects on being part of the Avengers ensemble, from trading foam props in ridiculous costumes to forming a 13-year found family with matching tattoos. He realized playing a hero kids could watch gave him a real voice with children, which he channels into his RennerVation Foundation for foster and disadvantaged youth. Playing a darker role, he notes, would never have given him that conduit.

  • The Avengers began as a collective ensemble and grew into a found family
  • The cast has matching tattoos signifying their bond over 13 years
  • Playing a hero gave Renner a genuine voice with children
  • He funnels that into his foundation for foster and disadvantaged youth
  • A darker role like a villain would have blocked that conduit to kids

That became such a beautiful payday for me... plant some seeds of hope for them.

Jeremy Renner
#avengers#philanthropy#purpose

Tool· 2

Tool

High heat and vibration: crowding out pain signals

Renner explains a drug-free pain tactic: the body struggles to receive multiple signals at once, which is why you instinctively rub a stubbed toe. He uses very high heat (hot baths) and intense vibration (power plates, vibrating rollers) to numb nerve endings, confuse the pain signal, and get blood flow into hard-to-reach tendons. Rolling both knees or ankles on a vibrating roller before bed, he says, knocks him out.

  • The body cannot easily process multiple sensory signals simultaneously
  • Rubbing a stubbed toe works by the same confusion mechanism
  • High heat plus intense vibration numbs nerve endings and eases pain
  • Vibration drives blood flow into tendons and cartilage that are hard to circulate
  • Not for a fresh break, only once past the acute healing stage

It's really difficult for the body to receive multiple signals at the same time.

Chris Williamson

High heat, high vibrations, great for pain.

Jeremy Renner
#pain management#heat therapy#vibration
Tool

Renner's recovery stack: hyperbaric, red light, peptides, NAD

Renner details the modalities he credits for a fast recovery and still uses daily: hyperbaric oxygen chambers, red light and infrared beds, high heat, vibration, cold exposure, a rotating list of peptides (BPC-157, MOTS-c, TB500, thymosin), daily subcutaneous NAD, and hormone replacement after his testosterone was found at 200. He rotates peptides and supplements on and off to let his body regulate and produce its own hormones.

  • Daily staples: hyperbaric chamber, red light/infrared, high heat, vibration
  • Rotates peptides (BPC-157, MOTS-c, TB500, thymosin) two to three months on and off
  • Subcutaneous NAD daily, which he likens to a shot of coffee
  • Started TRT after testosterone tested at 200 tanked his energy
  • Cycling supplements challenges the body to produce its own HGH and testosterone

Between the high heat stuff and the vibration, the red light, infrared beds, and hyperbaric chamber, I'll do those for the rest of my life.

Jeremy Renner
#biohacking#peptides#recovery#hormones

Takeaway· 4

Takeaway

Never chase the pain: stay ahead of it

Renner and Williamson trade a shared piece of post-surgery advice: never chase the pain. With pain medication you have to stay ahead of the curve, because once you fall behind and the drug has to catch up through your system, you are in for a bad day. It is a scheduling discipline as much as a medical one.

  • Pain medication must be timed to stay ahead of the pain, not react to it
  • Once you fall behind, the drug takes time to work and the day is lost
  • This is standard post-surgical advice both men received independently

Never chase the pain... You've got to get out ahead of the pain.

Chris Williamson
#pain management#recovery#advice
Takeaway

Fill your own cup first: the oxygen-mask principle

Renner wrestles with the tension between healing to help his family and the fact that he still has to serve himself. He lands on the airplane oxygen-mask rule: fill your own cup first so you can serve others better. His instinct is always to put others first, which he calls a martyrdom that does not actually help, so he practices prioritizing his own health every day.

  • Taking care of yourself can feel selfish but enables you to serve others
  • The oxygen-mask rule: secure your own first, then help others
  • Renner reframes work trips as going somewhere to get better first, job second
  • Self-sacrifice as martyrdom does not ultimately help anyone
  • He treats prioritizing his own health as a daily deliberate practice

If we fill our own water first, we fill us first, and then we can serve others better.

Jeremy Renner
#self-care#priorities#mindset
Takeaway

Zoom out: cutting the white noise to see what matters

Since the accident, Renner says the white noise is gone and he oversimplifies life down to what he actually wants: time, shared experiences, laughter. When he notices himself getting too microed into something with no real value, he deliberately zooms out to aggregate what actually matters, then re-engages. He warns that the freedom and luxury of modern life lets us pour energy into things that have no value.

  • The accident stripped away the 'white noise' of things he over-valued
  • He oversimplifies to core wants: time, shared experience, laughter
  • When blinders narrow his focus, he deliberately zooms out then re-engages
  • Abundance lets us spend attention on minutiae that does not matter
  • Perspective is a practice of aggregating what actually matters

Let me zoom out... Let me aggregate what actually matters here. And then go back in, re-engage into my life.

Jeremy Renner
#perspective#priorities#simplicity
Takeaway

The delayed-gratification trap of a driven life

Williamson raises Bill Perkins' book Die With Zero, quoting that delayed gratification in the extreme results in no gratification. Both discuss how driven people get hooked on the positive reinforcement of work, spinning on a hamster wheel waiting to 'arrive'. Renner's post-accident answer is to live the life he wants first and then prioritize work second, rather than defer enjoyment indefinitely.

  • Extreme delayed gratification can end in no gratification at all
  • Accolades and recognition keep driven people hooked on the work treadmill
  • A busy, chaotic life can be a way to avoid turning inward
  • Renner now starts with living the life he wants, then fits work around it
  • He contrasts American capitalist drive with Italian and Japanese balance

Delayed gratification in the extreme results in no gratification.

Chris Williamson

I'm working hard still, but I start with living the life first.

Jeremy Renner
#work-life balance#ambition#meaning