Dr Benjamin Hardy18 June 2020

The Truth About Your Personality - Dr Benjamin Hardy - #185

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Insights & moments

The myth-busts, hot takes, explainers, and tools worth keeping.

Myth Buster· 2

Myth Buster01:30

Personality Is Not Hardwired — It Can Change

Dr. Benjamin Hardy debunks the myth that personality is fixed and unchangeable. He explains that research shows personality evolves over time, and people often change more than they realize because their identity lens distorts self-perception.

Personality is not hardwired; it changes over time.
People are not the same as they were 5–10 years ago.
Identity shapes behavior, which over time becomes personality.
We often underestimate how much we've changed due to identity bias.

“Your personality should be something that you design yourself.”
Benjamin Hardy · 02:30

#personality#identity#change#myth-buster

Myth Buster19:00

Why Type-Based Personality Tests Are Garbage

Hardy criticizes type-based personality tests like Myers-Briggs and DISC for oversimplifying personality into fixed categories. He argues they promote psychological rigidity and are not scientifically valid.

Type-based tests (e.g., Myers-Briggs) are not scientifically valid.
Personality is contextual and changes over time and situation.
These tests create false identity labels that limit growth.
The Big Five is better because it uses spectrums, not types.

“Type-based personality tests are garbage. There's no such thing as a personality type.”
Benjamin Hardy · 19:30

#personality-tests#myers-briggs#big-five#psychological-rigidity

Explainer· 2

Explainer03:00

Identity vs. Personality — What’s the Difference?

Hardy distinguishes identity (how you define yourself) from personality (how you consistently act). He emphasizes that identity drives behavior, and over time, behavior solidifies into personality.

Identity is self-concept (e.g., 'I’m an introvert').
Personality is consistent behavior in the world.
Identity shapes behavior, which over time becomes personality.
Fixating on identity can limit growth and change.

“Identity is how you define and describe yourself. Personality is how you consistently act in the world.”
Benjamin Hardy · 03:00

#identity#personality#behavior#self-concept

Explainer07:30

The 'End of History' Illusion Explained

Hardy references Daniel Gilbert’s research showing people believe they’ve changed significantly in the past but wrongly assume they won’t change much in the future — a cognitive bias called the 'end of history illusion.'

People admit they’ve changed in the past but assume they’re 'finished' evolving.
This is called the 'end of history illusion.'
People don’t predict future change because they default to memory, not imagination.
Viewing your future self as different enables better present decisions.

“Human beings are works in progress that mistakenly think they're finished.”
Benjamin Hardy · 07:50

#future-self#psychology#change#daniel-gilbert

Tool· 3

Tool41:30

How to Reframe Your Past to Change Your Future

Hardy shares a method for reinterpreting past events by changing their meaning. He uses his own experience bombing a talk to show how viewing failure as 'happening for me, not to me' enables growth.

The past is not objective — it’s a story you tell.
You can change the meaning of past events.
Journaling and talking to others helps reframe trauma.
Ask: 'How did this happen for me?' instead of 'Why did this happen to me?'

“I'm choosing to view that episode as the best meeting I've ever been to. It happened for me, not to me.”
Benjamin Hardy · 46:00

#reframing#journaling#trauma#growth

Tool32:30

Journaling as an Emotional Regulation Tool

Hardy explains how journaling helps process emotions by turning them into a clear narrative. He shares how he uses it with his son to turn emotional outbursts into learning moments.

Writing turns emotions into a clear picture.
This reduces suffering and clarifies next steps.
Used with children, it teaches emotional regulation.
Viktor Frankl’s insight: 'Emotion ceases to be suffering when you give it a clear picture.'

“Emotion ceases to be suffering the minute you give a clear picture of it.”
Benjamin Hardy · 33:30

#journaling#emotional-regulation#parenting#viktor-frankl

Tool52:00

Use Financial Investment to Commit to Your Future Self

Hardy explains that investing money in your goals (e.g., domain name, personal trainer) creates psychological commitment through 'sunk cost bias' and strengthens identity alignment.

Spending money on a goal increases commitment.
Buying a domain name signaled real intent to become a writer.
Investments create 'escalation of commitment.'
You identify more with what you spend money on.

“When I bought a domain name for $800, my wife questioned it — but it made me serious. I was investing in my future self.”
Benjamin Hardy · 52:00

#commitment#identity#goals#behavior-change

Takeaway· 2

Takeaway48:30

Your Future Self Is a Choice, Not a Discovery

Hardy emphasizes that your future self isn’t something you discover — it’s something you decide. Clarity on who you want to become shapes present behavior and identity.

Your future self is a decision, not a discovery.
Define who you want to be in 2–3 years.
This vision should drive current behavior, not past identity.
Journaling helps clarify and refine this vision.

“Your future self is a decision you make, not a discovery you make.”
Benjamin Hardy · 48:30

#future-self#identity#goals#decision-making

Takeaway50:30

Telling People Your Goals Increases Accountability

Contrary to 'don’t tell your goals' advice, Hardy argues that sharing your future self with others creates social commitment and compels you to act consistently with that identity.

Telling people your goals creates accountability.
It signals to your subconscious who you want to become.
You start feeling compelled to act in alignment.
This is not 'fake it till you make it' — it’s self-signaling.

“If I tell everyone I want to run a marathon and don’t start running, they’ll call me out. That compels me to act.”
Benjamin Hardy · 51:00

#goals#accountability#identity#behavior-change